Pay it Forward

I am a Wyandotte Jaycee.  If you don't know what that is, ask me about it, were pretty awesome.  Today we had a meeting and it had me thinking...

We are in a contest with our Jayteens to see who can Jay it forward more.  Jay it forward is similar to pay it forward.  However, you must take a picture and post it on social media to get credit.  The Jayteens are winning.  Someone made the comment, are we the old folks and that is why we are losing because we aren't always on instagram?  This is so true.  

Everywhere you go take a look.  People are always on their phones.  Every bit of life is documented in a phone now whether it be snapchat, instagram, Facebook, twitter, linked in, etc.   We have lost the meaning behind communication.  We have lost the personal touch.  

When I pay it forward the last thing I am thinking about is social media posts.  I am paying it forward to someone who is less fortunate than myself or not as blessed at that current time.  I surely don't think about snapping a picture of it.  So next time you are out, pay it forward, but pay it forward with your heart, not because you want others to see what you do, but because YOU want to make a difference.  

(by no means do I think it is dumb to snap a photo of paying it forward because its a good way to keep track of truth, but to some it might diverge the meaning and had me thinking of everything being a social media advertisement)

Live your life for you

Today I was reminding of what happened to make a big change in my life.  One year ago I was in a relationship where I thought it was exactly what I wanted.  All my friends were having babies, getting married, and buying houses.  I finally had my career and wanted a baby so bad so why not settle for all of that??  I was spending a lot of time inside our town home with my boyfriends brother and sister in law and not really staying outdoors because its what they always did. They would leave their dog in the town home all day long and it would poop and pee in the basement and they would leave it there, which I was okay with because it meant I was still living with him even though I have never lived in filth and germs.  I was settling because I wanted the "perfect life."

A doctor at my job decided to kiss me and tell me, "Now tell me that the only thing you thought of was your boyfriend during that and that you are truly happy with him."  I couldn't, because I wasn't truly happy and I felt something new.  That kiss meant nothing more than to just realize I was in something that was not making me happy and I was not being myself.  Thank you to that doctor who helped me realize my happiness is not worth settling, it is worth fighting for myself and my goals.

I had allowed myself to get lazy because my boyfriend slept till 3 pm on his days off and really didnt do much.  I didn't go out on weekends because he was always working.

So I decide to move on.  I moved out and broke up with him.  Best choice of my life!

A year later, I have changed jobs and do not work around a guys schedule.  I am excelling at my job and have been given the opportunity to join the SWAT team of nurses due to my performance at work.  I am in a resource pool so I have had the opportunity of meeting all the doctors, nurses, assistants, etc in the hospital.  I feel truly blessed to know and count on so many people.

I am now Pediatric Advanced Life Support certified.  This allowed me to be given the opportunity to join the SWAT team.

I am traveling with friends.  Something I have not done before.  I cannot wait to go on a 7 day cruise in 8 months with 36 other people!  

I have two amazing guy friends who push me to my potential.  One is kind and passionate about others so he is always pushing me to help others.  One is as sarcastic and sassy as I am and challenges my every move.  They have helped me to realize what a best friend is again and how important it is to have one.

Do not settle for what you think you want.  Remember that you have one life to live and you must live it for you.   Set some goals and do not stop until you get there.